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7 Tips for Becoming an Emotionally Intelligent Leader

Do you aspire to be an exceptional leader? Embark on the journey of developing your emotional intelligence, a key to your success. Here are seven practical tips that can lead you to becoming an emotionally intelligent leader.

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Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one's own and others' emotions effectively. It encompasses self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, and motivation. It is also the cornerstone of effective leadership.  

Emotional intelligence has garnered significant attention in the business world due to its strong impact on leadership effectiveness, employee engagement, and overall organizational success. Research indicates that individuals with higher EQ levels are better equipped to navigate the complexities of the modern workplace, fostering positive relationships, and achieving sustainable growth.  

A study by Daniel Goleman and his colleagues published in the Harvard Business Review highlighted the critical role of EQ in leadership. They found that effective leaders possess a high degree of emotional intelligence, enabling them to inspire and motivate their teams, adapt to change, and make sound decisions under pressure. Moreover, leaders with higher EQ are better at managing conflict, resolving disputes, and cultivating a culture of trust and collaboration within their organizations. 

By cultivating emotional intelligence among leaders and employees, businesses can create a more inclusive, resilient, and high-performing workforce capable of navigating the challenges of the 21st-century. Investing in the development of EQ is not just a wise business decision, but a strategic imperative for long-term growth and sustainability. Organizations that prioritize the development of EQ among their leaders and employees stand to gain a competitive advantage by fostering a culture of emotional intelligence, where individuals are empowered to collaborate effectively, adapt to change, and thrive in the face of adversity. 

A quote by the brilliant Maya Angelou is a great reminder of the power of being emotionally intelligent: 

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou

Developing emotional intelligence requires self-awareness, empathy, and effective communication skills, among other valuable qualities. Below, we will dive deeper into each of these aspects and provide actionable tips for aspiring leaders to enhance their emotional intelligence. Incorporating these tips into your leadership approach can create a more positive and supportive work environment. 


  • Reflect on your own emotions, triggers, and communication style. Understand how your emotions influence your thoughts and behaviors in professional settings. 

Self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence. It involves being cognizant of your own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and how they impact your behavior and decisions as a leader. Take time for self-reflection through journaling or seeking feedback from trusted colleagues to gain insights into your emotions and reactions in various situations. Recognizing your triggers and patterns allows you to respond more thoughtfully rather than reactively, leading to better outcomes in leadership roles. 

Active Listening: 

  • Practice active listening during meetings and interviews. Listen fully to your employees' words without interrupting or formulating your response prematurely. 

Active listening is a skill that can significantly improve your emotional intelligence as a leader. It involves fully engaging with others during conversations, showing genuine interest, and demonstrating empathy. Practice active listening by maintaining eye contact, nodding to show understanding, and paraphrasing what others have said to ensure clarity. Avoid the urge to interrupt or jump to conclusions, as this can hinder effective communication and diminish trust within your team. 


  • Practice empathy by stepping into others’ shoes and striving to understand their perspective and emotions.  

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Cultivating empathy allows leaders to connect on a deeper level with their team members, fostering trust, loyalty, and collaboration. To enhance your empathy, actively seek to understand the perspectives and emotions of those around you. Practice perspective-taking by imagining yourself in their shoes and considering their background, experiences, and challenges. Demonstrating empathy not only strengthens interpersonal relationships but also promotes a culture of inclusivity and support within your organization. 

Conflict Resolution: 

  • Develop strategies for constructively managing conflicts and disagreements. Focus on finding mutually beneficial solutions and facilitating open communication between parties. 

Conflict is inevitable in any workplace, but effective leaders approach it as an opportunity for growth and resolution rather than avoidance. Develop strategies for managing conflicts constructively, such as facilitating open dialogue, active listening, and seeking common ground. Encourage a culture where team members feel comfortable expressing their concerns and opinions, and where conflicts are addressed promptly and respectfully. By fostering a collaborative approach to conflict resolution, you can strengthen relationships and promote a positive work environment.  

Feedback Delivery: 

  • Provide feedback in a constructive and empathetic manner. Offer specific examples and focus on behaviors rather than personal characteristics. Be open to receiving feedback yourself and use it as an opportunity for growth. 

Providing feedback is a crucial aspect of leadership that requires both sensitivity and clarity. When delivering feedback, focus on specific behaviors or actions rather than making judgments about individuals' character. Offer praise for strengths and constructive criticism for areas of improvement, always with the intention of helping the individual grow and develop professionally. Additionally, be open to receiving feedback yourself and view it as an opportunity for self-improvement and learning.  

Non-Verbal Communication: 

  • Pay attention to and be intentional about yours and others' non-verbal cues such as facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. These can provide valuable insights into emotions and intentions. 

Non-verbal communication plays a significant role in how messages are perceived and understood. As a leader, pay attention to your body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. These cues can convey emotions and intentions more powerfully than words alone. Practice mirroring the body language of others to demonstrate empathy and build rapport. Additionally, be mindful of your own non-verbal cues to ensure they align with your intended message and foster positive communication within your team. 


Extra tips for conveying approachability through non-verbal communication: Maintain eye contact to show interest, adopt an open posture, subtly mirror others' body language, use expressive hand gestures, respect personal space, utilize active listening cues, offer warm greetings with a smile and handshake, and maintain positive body language by avoiding fidgeting and crossing arms.  


  • Remain flexible and adaptable in the face of change and uncertainty. Embrace new challenges for learning and growth, both for yourself and your team. 

In today's fast-paced and ever-changing business landscape, adaptability is a crucial trait for effective leadership. Embrace change as an opportunity for growth and innovation, rather than fear it as a threat. Encourage a culture of continuous learning and experimentation within your team, where mistakes are viewed as valuable learning experiences. By remaining flexible and adaptable, you can navigate challenges more effectively and lead your team to success in any environment. 


Incorporating these tips into your leadership approach can significantly enhance your emotional intelligence and contribute to a more positive and productive work environment. By cultivating self-awareness, empathy, and effective communication skills, you can become a more impactful and influential leader who inspires and empowers others to reach their full potential. As you embark on the journey of becoming a more emotionally intelligent leader, remember that it is an ongoing process that requires dedication, practice, and a willingness to learn and grow professionally and personally.


Kathy Panaro, Founder and CEO of The Panaro Group LLC
Kathy Panaro, Founder and CEO of The Panaro Group

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